If your relation with sex could define the greatness of your business, would you consider it differently? What would be possible for you to realise and thrive in?
So let’s talk about sex. Spring is a perfect time to talk about sex, isn’t it? What is sex for you? Did you really consider what sex is made of? What relation is there between sex and business?
Usually, when we put the topics of sex and business together, we right away fall into the cliche of sexual abuse and the manipulation of seduction – not much expansion in there.
I would like to invite you to look at a different perspective toward what “sex” truly IS for you, how different it could be in your reality and how much it could improve your satisfaction in life and business. So let’s rather call it “sexual”, as it implies much more than what the word “sex” make you think about…
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Your Sexual mind
“Sexual” might not be only what you have been thinking it was, or what others have been trying hard in making you believe it was. Sexual is your whole kingdom of richnesses, possibilities and wonders. How much of your capacities have you acknowledged into that kingdom of yours?
If success in business is a target for you, you might benefit from employing more of your Sexual Reality. You might also have to re-consider the “relationship” you have with sex.
We have so many judgments about sex that we rarely take time to truly look at what it really is or could be for us. Sex has been so much damaged, categorised and objectified, that it became as clear and lucid in our mind as a painted fruit would be juicy and tasty in our mouth. Even more; considering the fact that all the judgments we have upon sex might not even be ours (see article “ The possibility of having more in life: your gratitude capital ” *), we therefore have deeply disconnected from our true awareness of it. We even somehow have separated from what we truly are or could be with it. So what is sexual?
Most of the time, what we call sexual is a gathering of ideas, points of view and projections that we have on the propensity, the attractions and the repulsions of copulation. This is the judged domain, whether good or bad; this is the place in which we throw all other aspects of what “sexual” could be. We have thrown the baby out with the bath water, my friends. Let us now consider what else it can be.
Sexual is also a lot of other things, great things, surprising capacities, and what you want is to make them your assets in life and business. Why? Because when you choose to consider them, when you allow yourself to be part of them (and why not the Art of them), when you allow your body to be nurtured by them, then your life expands, your relationships flourish, and your business grows like leaves on a huge oak at spring. And that is what you want to have as a reality; this kind of expansion. Let’s start here: the main consideration you could have about sexual is; Energy. But what is energy ?
From 25 to 32 years old I was a monk, living in secluded places, totally out of the ordinary “society”, in order to practice meditation, yogas and to study how body and mind function. Do you remember being that age? Didn’t you have a particular relationship with sex? What was your discovery of it? How much did you make it a separated part of your life, a special, intimate experience that you kept aside from the rest of your life? Or maybe secret? How much energy of it have you categorised as “sex” and thus kept away from all the rest? This doesn’t have to mean that sex was disappointing, painful or even abusive; even if you were joyfully fascinated by it; you might still have kept it aside from all the other aspects of your life, impoverishing it. Even if you didn’t, let say even if you brought sex to every hour of your days; even if you made sex as your identity; how much of it have you really considered out of the domain of copulation or sexuality? Have you finally ended with lonely pain, confusion and frustration? Eventually, did your relationships bring what you expected from life? Could you choose something different now?
What do you think I did at that young age as a monk, far from any women who could satisfy my desires? How did I deal with spring flourishing in my body? Frustration was not at all of my targets. Neither was isolation, whatever it may look like… So where did I find the pleasure? How did I satisfy my desires? No I didn’t choose men, and as a monk you have abstinence as one of your main vows anyway… Too bad. Let me ask you a question that might shake a bit all that: how much have you acknowledged the sexual energy of nature, of plants, of animals? Cats for example are highly sexual; they enjoy their body all the time, they are totally connected to their body, to all of it, to all of its sexual-ness. When they move, all their muscles move and enjoy, cats enjoy so much their body, and this is highly sexual. Imagine the effect you would have on men – or women – if you would really walk like a cat… Try it, walk with all your body and see what it creates… That’s maybe why it is so enjoyable to be next to cats, except if you are “allergic” to cats of course – yet it would be interesting to ask what relation you have created in between your allergy to cats and your sexual reality, that keeps you suspicious to pleasure – The presence of a cat is enjoyable because you perceive their orgasmic experience and appreciation of life, of life’s energy; sexual energy. Does it mean that you expect to have sex with your cat? Of course not! See… Sexual is more than you thought it was.
Are you still judging it? Do you really think sexual energy is keeping itself in the private domain of judgments that you tried to keep it? Is that why you didn’t yet realise what you desire in life? Sorry… But you can change all that, if you choose it.
Your Sexual Assets
Everything is sexual, because everything is life. Everything that lives is sexual. And you are part of it. You are it. Sexual energy is life energy, it flows in your body like a huge river at rainy season. Could you be that flourishing and dynamic land that allows this river to flow through? And could you let it flow into the sea of this world? Or maybe you are the sea, and the world is the river… Or maybe you are the land, the sides and the shores, maybe you are the possibility for the river and the sea to be and generate more, more of life… More, of Life. Did you choose something else than life because of the fixed point of views you had about sex? How much of the energy of death do you stick to your sexual reality, that keeps you from being all the Life of You as the Sexual-ness you truly be?
Sexual-ness? What is that? That is your capacity, your natural potency to be, to do and to have everything you wish and desire. Sexual-ness is the power you have over your reality, as being totally and naturally vulnerable, that is to say; as being able to receive everything, everyone, and be nurtured by it, rather than aggressed by what you thought it would be. When you drop your protections down, you start to have a totally different experience of life, you start to be fulfilled by everything, and most particularly you are not subject to bothering, aggressive and manipulative people or condition anymore, ever. Isn’t that awesome? You can be nurtured, pleased and satisfied by everything that surrounds you, unconditionally. It depends only on your choice to receive it, to be available, accessible to it.
Do you remember when you went to a natural spot, a park, a mountain, a sea, whatever your “Pleasure spot” could be? What happened there? You became vulnerable, because you didn’t protect yourself anymore, and the universe, the nature starts to gift you with such a pleasure to be alive that you smile out of ease, joy and the glory to be alive. Did you allow yourself to smile, even if nobody else could know why? What if you were having that same smile during your daily life? When you see someone alone smiling – not to their mobile phone, but to apparently “nothing” – are you glad for this person, or do you go into the usual point of view that “this one might have something wrong with him”? If you are glad for what others receive, you will generate more for you; more joy, more possibilities, more money. This is what we call the “Generosity of mind”.
If you want to succeed in your business, that’s what you want to choose; this vulnerability and this gladness. And that’s what sexual-ness is; you being nurtured, cared and satisfied by life. This is an orgasmic experience of life. This sexual energy is omnipresent around you and in you, in everyone, in everything, all the time. Are you willing to invite and generate that energy in your life and business? Are you willing to be invincible and irresistible? That’s where you start.
Your Sexual Body
When I was 14 years old I learned through Kung Fu that if we could condense sexual energy as much as we condense atomic energy, it would be 1000 times more powerful than an atomic bomb. That still amazes me. Rather than destroying our earth with chemical inventions, how much could we heal our earth with our chemical recognitions? Yes, when you choose to be in contact with your sexualises, you also heal the earth energetically, just by acknowledging its gift for you. And you also contribute to people around you, you make them feel better. You contribute to a greater future, just by acknowledging the potency and capacity of your body. Is it that simple? It is, try me on that.
As a matter of fact, your own body is much more powerful than an atomic factory. Have you been made wrong for having such a potency? Did you learn to close it down to avoid the disturbance it could generate, and to avoid being judged for that? A big part of our education is based on the judgment of body, hence, on the living energy of that body; that is to say sexual energy. We have been considering our body as painful every time it has manifested something, giving us an information that we didn’t want to hear. We have been judging our body for being too heavy or too light, for every shape that didn’t fit the fashion. Keeping those point of views, we have generated even more of what we were complaining about, or unsatisfied with. So we might have decided to undertake hardship trainings, or diets. Is it our body who wanted those diets? Did the diets actually please our body? Or was it for our mind, to please our judgments? When did we actually please our body? When did we create a loving relationship with it? Did we do that with sex as well? Did we do “mental sex” instead of letting our body enjoy the infinite pleasure of life? And when have we been grateful for our body, for supporting us since so long and for giving us Life every day? Do you judge your body at morning in the bathroom and at night, or do you thank it for being so wonderfully present and potent, and the source of every pleasure you have?
Ow yes… Did you notice that pleasure is a body-thing? When you enjoy a great natural spot or a meal or another person’s body… Is it a mind construction, or do you allow your mind to acknowledge a physical reality? And when you don’t appreciate anything… Is it a body reality or a mind-trap? It is a mental construction that doesn’t allow your physical reality to shine through, and gift you with the pure joy of life… Of sex. Imagine what you could do and generate if your mind would rather focus on the enjoyment power of your body? You may create a hell in a paradise, or a paradise in hell, depending what you choose to consider… With your mind. On the contrary, body is always happy, and it always knows what is good for you, because it is your living life, your key to create in life, your door to satisfaction, fulfilment and joy. Body is your sexual asset. Take pleasure and you will thrive.
There is a legend about “giving”. Biologically, your body is conceived as a receiving organism; it is made for being nurtured by everything that surrounds it. Doing so, something wonderful happens; at the same time it receives, it gifts. The need to give in order to receive is a legend, it might have been invented so that we keep our judgments upon what has to be given or not, and what has to be received or not. Good and bad. Whatever… How much did you deprive your body and your-self from, by obeying judgments? What would you be able to create in your life if you would choose to receive everything, without point of view? Let me repeat that again: this is where you get all your potency; in this vulnerability that receives everything and that is your natural state; the invincible aspect of you: your sexual-ness.
Sexual is what you are, as a perceiving, receiving and gifting entity. And all this is thanks to your body. The more you acknowledge it, the more pleasure you will have with it, the more success you will generate in your life. The more you allow your body to be nurtured by every energy around it, the less you will be tired and fed up. The more you allow your body to be nurtured by every energy around it, the more you generate around you; in your reality. Does this gives you a clue about how much business could be improved and expanded?
Your Sexual Business
How much of your sexual energy are you using for your success in business? What relationship do you have with sex regarding business? What relationship do you have with business regarding sex? Everything that accumulated in your mind, will you let it go now please?
What do you ignore about your business potency that you could discover and use from your sexual reality? Everything that doesn’t allow that; will you let it go now please?
Our body is our best asset for business. That’s what you get when you start to connect with this part of your reality, your sexual reality. You have a tremendous potency waiting for you, in your body. What is it all about? Yes, it’s all about sex. The sexual-ness of you and others; the nurturing, generative and orgasmic part of life that you can choose to Be. Being that potency, being You with that potency; what or who could stop you? Nothing. No-one.
You know that most of people live with a lot of frustrations, hardships and conflicts in them. Where do you think those difficulties come from? Exactly. Sex. So what happens when you choose to Be sexual, to be your sexual-ness? Well, not only you become appreciated and somehow desired by everyone, but you also resolve, pacify and ease the different conflicts, frustrations and hardships people have in them. Do you get what it generates related to your business? A lot more, yes, and a lot more possibilities. It actually creates trust, acknowledgment and joy. And yes, those 3 elements are those you want to have in your business. Even joy? Yes even joy. Joy is one of the most creative element in business. I will maybe talk about those elements in a future article, but what I can tell you today, is that joy, as an element of what is generated by your sexual-ness, is a magnet for money. And what is the link between money and sex? All of it. Sorry if that provokes you again. Yes, money and sex are linked together, like your body to you. And all of it is just… Energy. Sexual energy? Of course! What else?
The amount of judgments we have on money and sex is incredible. It’s as if we had build there the reserve for all judgments ever. And if you look well, they actually are the same. You will find more about it in this other article (**), we ‘re not going to look at that part today. Let us finish with what makes both money and sex yummy and pleasurable, because we like pleasure, right? Well if you don’t, then this article might really bother you… And nor creating a greater business neither creating a greater sexual reality does interest you. The pleasure part of sex is the pleasure part of money: Receiving, and at the same time you receive; Gifting. In other words; Having. Having so much in life, so much of life, that you can enjoy every moment, every little thing. There, nothing is impossible. Are you willing to really Have More in life?
Remember your first love (or your 32nd first love)? When you and your partner could see through time and conditions, and where you could dream about a greater future? That’s what I’m talking about. I know you will say that it was unrealistic… Can I ask you something in return? Do you still have dreams? Was it unrealistic or did you give up on those dreams because others made you believe it was impossible? Truth, was it impossible for you, or was it unthinkable for them? “ The biggest adventure you can take is to live the life of your dreams “ says Oprah Winfrey… Better than to live in a dream of your life, right? So… What else is possible®? ***
Your Relationship with Sex
Have you noticed how embarrassing are the people who cannot receive what you offer them? On the other hand; have you noticed how much ease is generated around those who simply receive what is proposed to them? Let’s play with that; please remember (or imagine) a time when you proposed something to someone (even just a glass of water to someone you don’t know), and the person takes it, simply… How did you feel at that time? Cool isn’t it? Now remember (or imagine) when the person refuses your glass of water or anything else you proposed kindly… How did you feel at this time? Quite unpleasant, right?
What I would like you to get here is that when you choose to be sexual-ness (when you choose to be your sexual energy and to receive the sexual energy of others and every living thing), what you generate in others is this same feeling you had when your gift was accepted and received. When you connect with your sexual energy, you receive what others propose you. And they love it, they feel honoured, valuable and alive. Wouldn’t you love to have a business in that energy of acknowledgment, of value and joy? How Proactive would your business be?
Time for Thrive
The good thing here is that what people always propose you is actually very much sexual, even if they don’t know it. So please get that: at time you acknowledge that you receive that sexual energy through you, and thus get nurtured by it, at the same time you satisfy their sexual reality! How amazing is that! And doing so, you make them grateful for you, appreciative to you, and if there’s a business implied; you make them “accustomed” to you. The most important is that you inspire people, and you give them more value. In one world; you empower them. This is what you want to create in business, whether in your team or with your clients. You want them to choose more of what you have, you want then to invest in you, in what you represent for them… And in what they can also get, and eventually be. If you choose to be as sexual as you truly are, you make all of that very easy, joyful and glorious. The best gift you will enjoy, is the one you will be for them; allowing them to reveal, unfold and unleash the most enjoyable and rich part of them and their life; their sexual reality. That is the playground of your success, because that’s where you celebrate your potency of thriving in life.
LEARN MORE: SEXPANSION – Ivan Martin’s workshop online 13-14th May 2018
Ivan Martin
contact: info@accessivanmartin.com
https://www.accessivanmartin.com/
*: The possibility of having more in life: your gratitude capital®: https://businessandprestige.pl/ivan-martin-the-possibility-of-having-more-in-life-your-gratitude-capital/
**: How do you design your life in relation(ship) with money?: https://businessandprestige.pl/english-how-you-design-your-life-and-relationship-with-money/
***: Access Consciousness
